2016 what did I learn? the life lessons I learned this year.

Ringing in the new year. 

I wasn't sure if I was going to do a reflective post on the year as I didn't want it to come across like a "look what I achieved aren't I great" braggy type of post. This time of year is great for reflecting and setting new goals for the next year. There is something so optimistic about starting a new year afresh and turning a new page. 

This year I had lots of highs, I also had plenty of lows too but a lot of these I keep behind the scenes. I feel I have done a lot of growing as a person the past year. As I get older I question things more, should I be married with kids? should I leave my job while I am still young? I over analyse things. 
Here are some of the things I learned about myself this year.


Video: Floating tea cup tutorial *updated.

How to make a floating tea cup. 

The most popular post on my blog has to be the floating tea cup tutorial so I decided to make a Youtube video to show how I make mine. 
You can click here for the original blog post with the step by step instructions on how to make them or you can have a watch of the youtube video below. 

I would love to see the ones you make so don't forget to send me your pictures or tag me over on Instagram or feel free to mail me using the contact button. 

I hope you enjoy the video and don't forget to subscribe. 
Thank you for all of your support on the Youtube channel I really appreciate it. 

Chat soon,


Weekend outfits with @iclothing

Lets get festive!

Hiya, well it is almost the New year. Is it just me or was that a really quick Christmas?

Today I have two looks both from iclothing, I picked two looks that I think would be perfect for the weekend, so wether you are going out? or going out out? I have two looks that I think you will love.

 Heading out?

I picked this classic dress as my night time look, I think it is so classy and would also be a fab option to wear on New years eve. I love a houndstooth pattern, it is timeless and something you can wear again and again. 
The cut of this dress is stunning. Definitely a head turner if your heading out and want to impress. 

I never know who I am going to bump into over Christmas so I always try and look glam. 
Oh! and did I mention that this dress has pockets! we all know how much I love a dress with pockets. 


How to set good goals and achieve them.

Setting goals. 

I am relatively new to setting goals, you might remember last year I was using the 100 day happiness planner and it definitely gave me some enlightenment and I achieved some things that I had been putting off for ages. With a new year around the corner I am setting my goals and thinking of the things I want to achieve next year. 

I don't like new years resolutions, I don't think you should have to wait until January to start bettering your self. However in saying that, there is a sense of optimism that a new year brings. Closing the door on the past year and being optimistic for the future. 

I am going to share with you my top tips that I have learned for setting goals. 


This is the hard part, you need to reflect on the things that you want from life. The things that bring you joy and also the things that annoy. Write them all down. Spend some time thinking about all of the things you wanted to achieve but have been putting off and the things that you want to remove from your life that bring you unhappiness. 
It is really nice to sit down and take stock of your life. This gives me a sense of control, like I am control of my life and I am not just plodding my way through it. 

" If you don't design your own life plan, chances are you'll fall into someones else's plan. And guess what they have planned for you? not much!" - Jim Rohn. 

I seen this phrase whilst scrolling through my regular Pinterest binge and it really made me stop and think. Nothing is going to happen in my life unless I take the actions and make it happen. 
A penny dropped. 

Don't be afraid to dream. 

I find the question "where do you see yourself in 5 years?" such an awkward one to answer. It was a question I left blank in my last journal. Why? because I was afraid, afraid to write down my dreams for fear someone might see them and laugh. 
I now realise how ridiculous this sounds but maybe you feel the same. It is terrifying to think about the future. All the what if's creep in. What if I don't achieve it? who cares? their your dreams and goals and at least you tried to achieve them instead of staying the same and unhappy. 

Get out of that comfort zone. 

The magic happens when you do things out of the comfort zone. Now, it is terrifying but why not take small steps.  For me an example of this was starting a Youtube channel for my blog. This terrified me as it was a new platform, the video is up their forever etc etc, but I knew if I wanted to grow my blog and make it more of a success I would have to get out of my comfort zone. 
Another example for this could be travel? you might really want to see a certain part of the world but you are too afraid. Why not push yourself and book that flight. 
The more you practise this the more it will get easier I promise. 
The benefits outweigh the initial anxiety. 

Be realistic. 

This is something I have really learned this year. Even though it is great to dream and set goals we also need to look at them and see if they are realistically achieved. 
Break down the goal, so for example.
 "I want to be the next So Sue Me and be a blogging empire in the next year" 
Is this realistic?
Nope! That woman worked her ass off to build up her empire and it took a lot longer than a year!
So Instead, I can make a more realistic goal and say.
"I will grow my following by 10k next year and write x amount of quality blog posts and get better at photography."
That is a more realistic goal for me to achieve in the next year. 

The same could be said for someone with a goal for weight loss. 
" I want to lose 40 lbs in the next year"
Yes this goal can be achieved but it is a big one and life likes to throw in some curveballs so why not break it down. 
"I would like to lose 20 lbs next year and drop two dress sizes." 
That way you are not going to be disheartened when you only lose 20lbs and not the 40lbs, Heck you done amazing and you lost 20 lbs. 

Take action. 

Its amazing setting goals, but thats all they are going to be unless you write down how you are going to achieve them and take the actions to achieve them. 

So my goal is to grow my blog readership and following. 

How am I going to do that then?
So here are example of the actions. 

  • Write five quality blog posts each month with quality imagery. 
  • Allocate time for interacting and engaging with readers. 
  • Minimum two youtube videos per month.
  • keep learning and developing photography skills. 
  • Try new blog topics. 
  • Engage with other bloggers and collaborate with content. 
The list of actions can be endless but write it all down and pic the ones that you can realistically do each month to get you closer to your over all goal. 

Another one of my goals is to be happy. 
Now this is a pretty vague goal and I am not going to magically wake up truly happy unless I set myself some actions to achieve my goal. 
For this you can write down what makes you happy and then list the tasks you can do each month to bring you joy. 

Check in on your goals each month and don't beat yourself up. 

Reflect and check in with your goals. That weight loss goal slipped off the wagon? don't beat yourself up over it. Sit down and break the task down and ask yourself "what one task can I do in the next month to get closer to my goal ".

I am working on letting go and not being a perfectionist. So I have been practising changing my thinking. So instead of beating myself up over only writing two blog posts, instead I say " well its two more than none and you done well to write them considering how busy you were". 
Its not about making excuses either, It is very easy to come up with excuses for not doing things but don't be so hard on yourself and stop and reflect on what you have achieved so far. 

What are you waiting for?

For years I contemplated writing a blog. Like I was waiting on some magical fairy to come and tell me I could. I honestly don't know why I waited so long to start one. It was the same this year for me when I really wanted to start Youtube. I was making excuses, " I need quality lighting and set up etc etc, excuse after excuse and then I stopped and said "why"? Just do it and who cares about the quality for now, you can learn and develop it and at least you started.
Look at me know, I am 5 videos in and I am delighted I started it, whereas I could still be sitting here making excuses and waiting on that fairy to come and tell me to do it. 

Over Christmas while I have some down time I am going to reflect and write down my new goals that I want to achieve for the next year. My overall main goal in life is to be truly happy. I am going to reflect on the main areas in my life such as work, home life, hobbies and my blog. 
I am going to really dissect each section of my life and see what makes me happy and what doesn't and from that make the actions I need to achieve my over all goal. 

"Happiness is not something ready made. it comes from your own actions" - Dalai Lama

To write down my goals and reflect on them I use the Happiness planner that I was kinda gifted from farfetchedaccessories.ie and I will be using the 52 week dated one for 2017.
To get 10% off your paler is the code Dainty10 at the checkout. *discount valid until 11th of December. 

I hope you found this post useful and I hope you find it easier to set yourself some goals that will really make a difference to your well being and happiness. 

What is something you want to achieve in 2017. 
Lets have the chats below. 

Thanks for reading. 

** This is NOT a sponsored post. 

Surviving Christmas

It's the most wonderful time of the year. 

It is also one of the most stressful times too. The pressure to have the "perfect" Christmas can take it's toll on us. Christmas can be an amazing time of year but it can also bring its own stresses and strains. 
Financially it can be a huge stress too and puts a lot of pressure on families. You might even have a family member poorly this year. 
The pressure to have the perfect instagrammable Christmas can leave you feeling burnt out come Christmas day. 
I have some tips for getting through it all to share with you today. 

I have had my fair share of shitty Christmases, I remember the year my dad died our heating broke and we had that snow! yep remember that snow! Now that was a crapy one. 
I love the time of year, I love the decorations and exploring places when its festive but I actually am not a massive fan of the day itself. 
I work long hours over Christmas which leave me feeling burnt out and come Christmas day I just want to hide under a blanket with a box of Tayto and a 6 pack of Guinness.


Video: Christmas market and a ramble.

Farmleigh market.

Today is my last day off until Christmas, with a busy week ahead of me in retail I had to get out into the fresh air and have a ramble and recharge my batteries. 
Today was my favourite type of day, it was one of them bright sunny days but it was cold so I could wrap up warm. 
I decided to head to the local market that is held in Farmleigh in the Phoenix park. I thought everyone would be in the shops buying the last of their presents but unfortunately they had the same idea as me and it was so packed. It was great though as it gave me that festive feeling I needed to feel. 

I captured it all in a mini vlog for you to watch over on my youtube. I am looking forward to making more videos in the new year and I just want to say thank you so much for all of the lovely comments on the videos. 

Tartan talk with Locharron of Scotland.

Creating something different with Tartan. 

I had the pleasure of working with a metre of the gorgeous light weight tartan fabric from Locharron of Scotland. I normally sew with good aul poly cotton but this was an absolute treat to work with a fabric of such quality. 
With my metre of fabric I made my favourite items to sew, I made a smaller teddy and a 16" cushion. I still even had some fabric left over from my metre. 


Hand crafters and vintage sellers of Instagram

Shop small.

Instagram is not just a place for pretty pictures, there are some serious girl bosses over there and it is where I found these ladies I am talking about in this post. 
I love Instagram as you never know who you will stumble across whilst scrolling through your favourite hashtag. There is a massive community of small businesses and crafters on there for you to explore. 
These hustlers have jobs and families but also slay at the selling after hours on Instagram. Wether they are decoupaging, stamping, melting waxes or sourcing vintage homeware these girls are killing it online and have beautiful creations to offer. 
I know from my own side job that when you buy from a small business it makes a massive impact to that person. It funds the dream and keeps us going, nothing beats getting sales and the buzz of happy customers. Most sellers I know don't make millions from their work but they do it for the love, for their creative outlet.  

I have seven ladies to share with you today and I will make sure to link on each of them their Instagram handle for you to go and check out. 

The vintage stamp. 


Video: How I decorate my home for Christmas

Christmas decor in Dainty's

Hi everyone, Its Christmaaaaaas! 
I made a fun youtube video for you guys to have a look and a nose around my house and a look at my style of decorating for Christmas. 


The perfect Christmas day outfit

Christmas checks with Laura Ashley 

Stuck for what to wear Christmas day? Want something glam but you want to be comfy too? I picked a gorgeous outfit from Laura Ashley that I think is perfect to wear over Christmas. 
For me I want to be comfy on Christmas day, because I work long hours over Christmas I am craving comfort but  I don't want to be in  pyjamas all day either. 
I can't believe how close its getting to Christmas! honestly where does the year go. 


Christmas homeware gifts under €50 with Marks & Spencer #AD

Homeware gifts under €50

Heya! hands up who is getting excited for Christmas, today I have lots of fab homeware from Marks & Spencer. I got to pick some of my favourite items that I think would make the perfect Christmas gift and best of all they are all under €50 so wether its a gift for a teacher, your boss or your bestie then I think I have something here for you. 

Have a peep below at my Youtube video and scroll below for tons of pics and all the details on the prices and links to the items too.


Video: Christmas craft fair weekend, a behind the scenes.

Christmas craft fair 2016

Hi everyone, so this weekend was a mad one with my first ever Christmas fair, I had so much fun and have to say a massive thank you to everyone who came. Have a peep below at my Vlog of the weekend that I have over on Youtube.

Chat soon,

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